When-to-End-Your-Soul-Sucking-Friendship-MainPhotoUPDATED June 12th, 2018

You know what a soul-sucking friendship is. Maybe you’ve even been the offender. (I’m ashamed to say I have.) The dear friend whose phone calls you’ve come to dread, the one with whom dinner outings turn into agony—her reciting all hers and you stuck listening—and the one with whom going out for a few drinks after work turns into tears, drunken drama and self-destructive behavior. Deep down, she’s a good person. But she’s sucking the life out of you.

It’s time to break up with your soul-sucking friend.

Now that probably sounds mean, and maybe it is. But you’ve listened. You’ve offered advice when asked, and maybe even when not asked. You’ve let her cry on your shoulder and you’ve given her the name of your therapist. Yet nothing is working. Your friend is going through a personal crisis—short term, hopefully—that you just can’t help her with. 

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