This might sound odd, but even if you’re straight we think it’s time you put your focus on how to meet gay men. Life can be tough, but it’s way better with a best friend by your side. Some friends offer support, some offer companionship, many can give you a laugh and a few are connected to your history, but there is something unique and amazing about having a gay best friend. We’re not sure if it’s because they are amazingly honest, they’re not afraid to show their emotions or because they aren’t trying to get you into bed, but a gay best friend can help make everything from a bad day to a bad date seem better.
As Glamour magazine reports, according to Terrance Dean, author of the book Straight From Your Gay Best Friend: The Straight-Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having a Fabulous Life!, the secret is that gay men “relate to our BFFs because we’re in touch with our emotions…We are not trying to sleep with our good girlfriends, and we certainly won’t borrow your best fashions and not return them.” All true, and all excellent reasons why sometimes your girlfriends just won’t cut it; you need a gay best friend in your life. Here are 7 reasons to meet gay men as you search for a new bestie.
1. He will teach you how to appreciate your body
Your gay best friend knows what it feels like to be insecure, so he will understand when you have a “fat day” or when you’re in the dumps because you don’t look or feel your best. He will also know just what to say to cheer you up, and will never let you forget that you are beautiful. True, a gay man has no interest in your body sexually, but he will objectively appreciate your beauty on a platonic level, and if you’ve ever received a compliment from a gay man then you know it’s an incredibly flattering feeling.
2. Never forget the value of brutal honesty
Your gay best friend will say it like it is. As in, he will tell you the brutal, honest truth without sugarcoating his opinions AT ALL. He’ll tell you when you look haggard and he will be honest if you say something stupid and he will never forget to tell you that your outfit looks like crap. And you know what, it is exactly what you need to hear.
3. He can help you decide what to wear
Speaking of crappy outfits, you should meet gay friends because they make amazing shopping partners because they will tell you what looks good in a refreshingly honest, yet sweet way. And since he’s not trying to get into your pants, you know he’ll give you his real opinion on whether or not those pants make your butt look big.
4. He will show you how to communicate with men
Your gay best friend is a man, so he knows how men think (for better or for worse). Yet he also relates to you on a completely platonic, best friend level. He can help you get through to the guys in your life in a way that a guy will understand, but he can explain it to you in a way that you will understand. And since your gay BFF is in touch with his emotions, he can be a shoulder to cry on when you know the other man in your life just isn’t ready to see that kind of breakdown.
5. He knows exactly which guys to stay away from
If a guy doesn’t call you back, he’s not into you, stay away from him. If you receive a booty call, stay away from him. If a man won’t introduce you to his friends, stay away from him. Listen to your gay best friend when he tells you all the men who are not right for you; your gay BFF knows exactly how wonderful you are, he knows exactly how special a guy needs to be to date you, he’s not competing for anyone’s affection and he knows who the jerks are. Listen to him!
6. He will be there for you when all your other relationships with men fail
Meet gay friends because your gay bestie has a masculine energy when you need it, a supportive female energy when you need it, he’s not scared of a few tears and he’ll be there when any of the other men in your life disappoint you. Plus, all the female competition and drama (let’s be real, there’s usually drama when it comes to girlfriends) doesn’t exist.
7. He will help you be comfortable with yourself
Coming out of the closet has to be incredibly terrifying, and yet, despite all the potential criticism or completely irrational hatred that might follow, your gay best friend did it anyway. He had to be true to himself and he learned how to be comfortable with who he is. That is not an easy task for anyone regardless of your sexual preference, age or gender. Learning to be 100% comfortable in your own skin is a major challenge for everyone (even your friends who fake it really well). A gay best friend will show you what it means to be strong and confident and will empower you to feel the same way. Meet gay men because they will support you and love you for who you are, and if that isn’t the greatest gift a friend can give you, we’re not sure what is.