The fact of the matter is being a good partner requires knowing how to be not only kind, but tolerant. Because let’s face it, neither of you is perfect. And those nerve-wracking quirks aren’t going anywhere too soon. “So rather than let those annoying traits work your last nerve, try to get in touch with the upside of those particular flaws, even if it’s not immediately recognizable,” said Denver psychologist Jennifer Oikle, PhD, in a Cosmopolitan interview. “Instead of getting annoyed when he starts screaming at the TV, for example, remind yourself how much you love his passion.” It’s all about the spin you put on the situation. It’s all about how you spin the situation in your head.
