Emma (not her real name) never understood women who had extramarital affairs, until she had one. “I was very judgemental. I imagined it to be something premeditated. Then I realized it could happen to anyone, including me. And it wasn’t pretty.” Feeling unappreciated by her husband of 10 years and exhausted after taking care of everyone’s needs except her own day in and day out, a coworker’s advances unexpectedly lifted her spirits and her self-esteem.