UPDATED June 17th, 2017

We’ve all been there. Whether in a romantic or potentially romantic moment, or in the throes of a full-blown relationship, we’ve all witnessed some behavior and habits in guys that are enough to kill either the moment or the entire affair. Are we too picky? Maybe. But every woman has her limits, and there are some things that are just intolerable.

No list is universal, but here are 17 of the most common, cringe-worthy things a guy can do to turn women off.

How-to-Win-an-Argument-with-Integrity-Photo61. He only talks about himself. A man who shows no interest beyond himself is a turn off, and leaves the woman in his life tired and bored. Women need to connect with men—they do this mostly through communication. A woman needs to feel the man cares and he shows this by asking questions about her that have nothing to do with him!

2. He holds a dinner knife like a dagger. Table manners still make a big impression, even if we live in a society which is slowly and unfortunately losing its fundamental values of etiquette. How he eats at the table can be very telling to the person sitting in front of him.