Win some, lose some and sometimes, find middle ground. Life is a series of compromises, whether it’s a discussion with your spouse about vacation spots, an argument with your kids about bedtime, or a one on one with your boss about the latest project. We all love to win, but not at the expense of someone else’s pride. It’s best, for the most part, to find a compromise that lets everyone feel they’ve come out a winner. Remember the words of the Chinese philosopher Sun Tzu: “He who knows when he can fight and when he cannot, will be victorious.”
Knowing when to stand your ground and when to graciously compromise is a gift. Begin by seeking a compromise rather than a victory. It’s hard for the truly competitive, but it’s really the only way to ensure everyone walks away satisfied, if not happy. Not sure when to stand your ground and when to look for that middle path? Don’t know how to pick your battles? Have a look at our list of our 10 ways to know when to take a deep breath and stand the heck down.
1. Safety First
Always be firm when you choose your battles if it’s a matter of health or safety—either someone else’s and certainly your own. You take the keys away from the party guest who has had one too many and you insist on bike helmets.