Thanksgiving means spending time with the family, and that -for many- requires a survival guide!. When I bring up the subject of Thanksgiving, I am often met by responses like: Well, it’s bearable for four days! or, Laura, my family is so dysfunctional! It ends up being a question of merely surviving those days rather than enjoying them.
First, allow me to concede that “the dysfunctional family” is the new normal. All families have troubles, and in this age of divorce and remarriage, we now have the ex-suegra, the step-mom, the ex-husband, the son’s husband, the daughter’s wife, and a whole lot of family ties which were not so common a few generations ago. As if our immediate family of siblings and parents didn’t already cause us enough grief!
THE REASONS BEHIND THANKSGIVING STRIFE
Our relationships with our family may not change much over the years. Even when we’re all grown up, our parents still see us as kids, and our siblings see us as the bullies or the outcasts of the family we once were. Add alcohol to the mix and after a few hours, shared laughter might degenerate into a full blown fight. Not to mention the comments your abuelita or suegra might have in store for you. Have you gained weight since I saw you? (You are fat.) Are you sleeping enough? (You look like crap.) What is it that you do again? (You have a shitty job.)
Yet, there are ways to make your way safely through the holidays. If you change your attitude, people will change how they interact with you. This has worked for me, and it can work for you, too.
THANKSGIVING SURVIVAL GUIDE