Read Related: How to Look and Feel BeautifulGORGEOUS GETS YOU MORE Second scenario: I got extra tofu cream cheese on my bagel because the man at the counter thought I was gorgeous (his description, not mine). He delivered my bagel with a wink and a smile. His flattery made me feel good.
Then I silently berated myself for thinking I’d get their (unwanted) attention; I hardly looked like J. Lo, with my un-made up face and comfy, not-exactly-sexy clothes. But as I walked past, one of them said, “Hey beautiful. Hey. Hey, I’m talking to you. What’s the matter, girl, cat got your tongue? I’d like to—” [I’ll spare you the rest.] I didn’t tell the men off. I’ve tried that and was chased through the streets by one catcaller; another spit in my face. Needless to say, I don’t care much for catcalls, though my grandmother once told my verbally harassed mom, “If you think you don’t like what construction workers say when you walk by, see how you feel the day they stop.”