Checking Facebook while your friend spills her heart out to you does not count as being present, even if you are sitting right next to her the whole time. According to Mind Body Green, “the most important and also the least common quality to find in a friend: the ability to listen with complete acceptance and without interruption or offering unsolicited advice.” So if you want to be the go-to girl that all your friends know they can count on, being present is a great place to start.