ADDRESS WHAT GIVES YOU PAUSE
What are you most scared of when taking a picture? Do you do something quirky with your face? Do you not know what to do with your hands? Do you always feel underdressed or covered in kid residue? In a reasonable fashion, address what makes you feel uncomfortable. If you hate that quirky look or double chin you get when you smile, practice smiling and tilting your head differently in a mirror. Put those hands on your hips. Dress up a little for family events.
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