“It’s painful for the child because it creates a sense of insecurity because (the child) observes their parent out of control and being inappropriate, and it doesn’t make sense,” explains Dr. Dumas. But it’s hard on the couple and family. The cycle can go on forever creating a highly dysfunctional and painful family dynamic that often leads to strains in the relationship. The fact is that this unconscious problem may not only be the cause of unnecessary suffering for children and parents, but it may be also at the root of many divorces. Dr. Dumas says that 80 percent of cases that he sees with family conflicts experience regression/progression issues. In fact he says this problem is so prevalent that he created educational brochures for parents to read so that they can be informed, which is the first therapeutic step to overcome it.