• You can start by slowly mentioning your new guy in conversation a couple weeks prior to the meeting day (depending on how old your kids are—the older they are, the more time you need to put between your first mention of your boyfriend and the actual meeting). Use a casual tone and drop him into the conversation several times a day. Introduce his name, his activities; let your children know you have a wonderful new friend and then let his presence slowly evolve in your children’s reality.