Parenting can trigger a lot of different emotional and psychological deep-seated issues for parents, particularly around the issue of discipline, says Dr. Dumas. He explains the typical regression progression scenario: the husband comes in to family therapy accusing the wife of disciplining the children too harshly and blames the mother for victimizing the kids with her aggressive punishment. The father reacts with extreme anxiety, when in fact, his wife is just normally disciplining their child. “In most of the cases when we look as the father’s history, we realize that he was a victim of parenting abuse,” he says. “What happens is that the father is reliving and trying to heal his childhood trauma.” Of course, it all takes place in a space where the father is completely unaware of his behavior, his wife is being unfairly accused of something and the child is smack in the middle, left totally confused. Of course, it’s not just fathers who suffer from repression progression, moms do as well.