“I would ask them to look into their hearts and imagine being their own mami at 80 or 90,” Annette suggests. “How would they want to be treated? What would bring them joy? How can they make the relationship grow in this new situation? The elders who thrive in assisted living facilities have a sense of purpose, feel loved and honored, and are active and involved in family life. For example, we often ask Mom’s advice on matters, even if we already know which direction we’re going in, because we want her to feel connected to family decisions.”
