6. Forget About Being Right and Defending Yourself
Lesli Doares, the author of Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage: How to Create Your Happily Ever After With More Intention, Less Work says don’t waste your time on the defense. “Once you feel your position is being attacked, your knee-jerk reaction is to defend it. This is exactly the wrong thing to do. Once you defend your opinion, you are tacitly agreeing with your partner that something is wrong with it. In reality, if it can be supported by the facts, your position is as equally valid as your partner’s. It’s just different.” This is key. Opinions vary. No one is right or wrong. Your job is to arrive to a mutually understanding plane so that your difference of opinion may peacefully coexists.
