Bullying,-Bisexuality,-and-Social-Media--A-Teen's-Perspective-MainPhotoKalman says that a child or adult should respond calmly to the verbal insulter.  “The name-caller enjoys when you’re upset: “You’re an idiot!  You’re stupid!” a sibling begins.  “No, I’m not!  Stop it!  I’m telling, Mom!” replies the whining brother or sister. Kalman explains that “when the victim decides to respond calmly, he or she is no longer a victim, but a victor, diffusing the negative insult.” As an example, Kalman says, a response to “Hey there, stupid loser,” would be “Oh, is that what you’re calling me today. Be my guest, call me what you want.” The child would then calmly walk away.