That is also my goal. That Mami will understand me and support my decision. That she will see me as an adult, not so much as her fragile 7-year-old daughter who is terrified of bugs. That we will become closer. However, I also know I must prepare for a roller coaster ride of emotions due to the changes that are occurring.

Alexandra Morbitzer recommended as much. When she moved from her hometown of Westerville, Ohio, to New York City, her Puerto Rican mother had a tough time. “At first, she tried to ‘mother’ me harder—calling in the morning, between classes, at night,” Morbitzer, 24, recalled. “She wanted to know every single detail about every part of my life.”