This pattern of impulse control failure had manifested itself most obviously in various unwise moves I’d made with regards to my career, online. I’d posted scathing letters and blog posts about my employers or business associates, for example, over the past decade, and though I’d incredibly thought at the time that such actions would help me to gain sympathy, these things always turned around to bite me. In the end, the only person who ended up hurt by my public tantrums was…me.

What I didn’t realize until very recently is that there were all sorts of other ways in which this same pattern of failing to control my most base and emotional impulses was harming me. Pretty much any area of my life you wanted to look at, there it was. Failure to control impulses.