The first step is understanding that creating the life you want isn’t about waiting for a miracle in which you are granted all the good things you’ve been dreaming about since birth. As Forbes reports, Karen Mason Riss, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, explains that “most people think they are discovering their lives: they pray, they hope something good will happen. But what I think, what I say, what I do, creates my reality. We are creative beings, not discovery beings.” In other words, you cannot expect the perfect life to present itself to you after a few bedtime wishes; you need to decide what you want your life to look like and then you need to make it happen.