Explaining the birds and bees to your child may now seem like a breeze compared with talking with your teen or pre-teen about their gender identity and/or sexual orientation. Sometimes parents suspect that their child is gay and want nothing more than to verify it, protect them from discrimination and bullies, and show their love and support. Other parents may accept homosexuality in society, but not in their home and have misconceptions about diseases and promiscuity. However, sometimes what you think to be true is not, and most experts agree you should not ask your child if they’re gay, but wait until they’re ready to talk to you about it. “You don’t want to assume anything, but the idea is to let the child know that she can feel comfortable talking about anything with you,” said the Trevor Project’s program director, Phoenix Schneider, in a Parents interview. The Trevor Project is a national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth.