UPDATED June 12th, 2018

Most of us have one—a “SHEro”…call it a girl crush or call it envy or admiration, we all have those heroic moms who we look up to and maybe even seek to emulate. Maybe you see her in the playground, the grocery store or the car line at school. She’s that take-charge kind of mom who seems to have it all together. She’s planning a school fundraiser while the kids play, she’s stocking up on healthy, whole foods in the produce aisle, and fast food wrappers don’t come tumbling out of the minivan when her kids slide open the door.

So how the heck does she do it?

While there’s no such thing as SuperMom, some moms do seem to make mommy-multitasking look easy. So what are their secrets? Are they just unflappable by nature, or have they learned some tricks of the Mom Trade from which we could all benefit?

Mamiverse polled scores of everyday SHEro mothers to come up with these seven secrets of successful moms. And for the record, we’re measuring success not in terms of money or career, but in finding a balance, taking charge of one’s life, raising happy kids and cultivating personal fulfillment along the way. It’s a tall order, but here are some moms who tell us how it’s done.