From a very young age we’re taught that standing up for yourself is important but also that we should always apologize. If you push someone, you say you’re sorry. If you steal someone’s toy, you say you’re sorry. If you accidentally/on purpose pee in the middle of the living room floor, you say you’re sorry. Apologizing is positioned as the first step to fixing your mistakes. But as we get older, it can be really hard to admit when we’re wrong. Saying the “S” word (no not that “S” word) feels bad—it feels like defeat.