Are you sexually frustrated? Do you feel unsatisfied with your sex life? The causes of sexual frustration can be physical or psychological. Certain medical conditions can lead to sexual problems. For instance, diabetes, heart disease, hormonal imbalances, menopause, neurological diseases, kidney disease, liver failure, alcoholism and drug abuse. Cancer, chemotherapy, pregnancy, and fatigue may also contribute to a woman’s changes in her overall sexual health. Furthermore, some medications, such as antidepressants, may affect your libido.
Stress and anxiety can both cause you to be sexually frustrated. Furthermore, depression, guilt, past sexual trauma, being overly concerned about sexual performance, or problems with your relationship may also negatively affect your sex life. These physical and psychological causes of sexual frustration can show up in a number of ways.
Lower Sex Drive
Women can experience lack of sexual desire and low or no interest in sex due to physical challenges or limitations. Moreover, boredom and lifestyle factors may also hinder the sexual performance of women.
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Lack of Sexual Arousal
Anxiety may prevent women from getting sexually aroused. Insufficient vaginal lubrication may also be due to inadequate sexual stimulation prior to having intercourse. Also, problems with the vulva, the vagina, and the clitoris may lead to the inability to feel sexually aroused.
Inability to Orgasm
Not that! Known as anorgasmia, this is a lack of orgasm or the inability to reach sexual climax. According to the Mayo Clinic, many women suffer from anorgasmia. Fewer than a third of women consistently reach orgasms during intercourse. There can be many causes to anorgasmia in women. Hormonal changes, medical issues, medications, religious beliefs, marital problems, lack of physical attraction to your sexual partner, among others, may cause anorgasmia.
Conditions such as endometriosis, ovarian cysts, STIs, the presence of scar tissue, vaginitis , vaginismus, may lead to painful sex, leaving you sexually frustrated
Sexual frustration can also happen when there is a disparity between the sexual needs of both partners. For instance, one sexual partner may think that their sexual life is adequate, while the other may think that their sexual life is lacking. The sexual drive of both partners may not be in sync due to the reasons previously explained or the natural sex drive of each individual within the relationship. Patricia Love, marriage and family therapist and author of Hot Monogamy, says that both men and women can experience sex frustration due to the levels of sexual drive of each partner. The generalized assumption that men want sex more than women is not necessarily true. Moreover, when women want sex more often than men, both men and women may feel embarrassed. Also, the frustration of not getting the sex they want impacts the perception of women about their bodies and attractiveness, according to sex therapist Dr. Louanne Cole Weston.
WHAT TO DO?
First consult your physician. If your sexual frustration comes from medical reasons, your physician can help. If the causes are psychological, your physician may recommend psychological or sexual therapy.Second, communication is key. Do not keep your partner in the dark. If you need more sexual arousal prior to penetration in order to enjoy a more fulfilling sex life, do not be afraid to speak up. Tell your partner what you need and be open and honest about it.