Our children are listening, even when we think they aren’t. They are learning from our examples. I know that my own almost obsessive drive to lose weight in recent months probably isn’t helping, so I’ve begun to take an “all things in moderation” approach, in hopes that it will wear off on my kid.

After the incident at the grocery store, I took my son out for a burger. He seemed uncertain, and tried to get a green salad for his side, and I suggested, firmly, that he get the fries—which he used to love.