We have friends throughout our lives—some come into our lives to stay, others drift away. We know that having friends and staying social improves our quality of life and helps us maintain good health. Making friends as an adult becomes much harder than it was in grade school. Figuring out what’s holding you back is the first step toward expanding your circle of friends, so here are 16 things to know about making friends as an adult and why it’s more difficult. After all, it’s tough out there—we need all the friends we can get.

1. Work
You spend a lot of time at work, possibly too much. With less leisure time, it’s harder to build friendships.

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