Have you tried everything from expensive lingerie to oysters to salvage your libido? By the end of the day, women do so much multitasking that we end up too exhausted and stressed for any kind of hanky-panky. As a result, we put our sexuality on the back burner and forget how important intimacy and sensuality can be for our health and relationships.
What causes this decrease in the first place? When it’s not psychological (which a sex therapist can help) or a medical condition (in which hormone therapy is administered) new mothers or women entering menopause experience hormonal shifts that decrease their sex drives.
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Ask any woman and the most popular culprit to their sex slump seems being too darn tired to feel playful. Anyone who feels low energy is simply not in the mood to do acrobatics in bed. That’s precisely why you should turn to exercise to rev up your inner engines if you feel lethargic all the time. Whether it’s a Zumba class or a brisk walk around the block to increase the blood flow on a regular basis, the fact is, being healthy goes hand in hand with a fired up sex drive. “In fact women who exercise have higher sexual self-esteem, which means they may have a greater desire to have sex,” said Tina M. Penhollow, PhD., the head researcher at the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, in an interview with Health magazine.
After you’ve worked out, instead of texting your husband about household chores that need to be done, throw some Barry White sexy into your words and sext him instead. Remind him about that time you joined the mile high club together on your flight to Rome. Relationship experts say that steamy talk helps put you and your partner in a racier state of mind. It’s like you’ve planted the seed for something to blossom when it can. And there’s a burning anticipation for it.
Another tip to getting your groove back is hugging your partner the right way once you get home. Not just for 3 seconds like the average hug tends to last, but for at least 20 seconds. A study showed that hugging increases your levels of the bonding hormone oxytocin. When women use their sense of touch it triggers feelings of deep attachment, which often leads to sexual longing. So if you touch his leg or linger on that kiss a little longer you may feel a spark that can ultimately rescue that libido of yours. Oh yeah, baby.