Another important pointer, as Parents magazine reports, is to enforce social skills and set a good example as early as possible Think about the way you ask for things around the house. Is it polite?  You’re your child’s first role model and it’s possible that her bossiness could reflect the way that you relate to her. Even though you’re her mother and in charge, it pays to be polite to your child so she’ll use her manners  with those around her. Ask toddlers kindly to make her requests in an appropriate manner. Something along the lines of: Is that how you ask for a drink of milk?