It’s a Part of the Healing Process
Breakups are hard for everyone. According to Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D., Professor of Psychology at University of Massachusetts Amherst, “even if [you] were the initiator of the break-up, there are likely still moments of regret and perhaps rumination as [you] begin to reminisce about the former partner.” There’s no shame in feeling loss as a relationship comes to an end, but if you want to heal so that you can form healthier, stronger relationships in the future, then you need to allow yourself to grow, not focus on painful reminders of what went wrong in your failed relationship. That’s not to say you should completely forget about your ex and all you learned from that partnership. It can be important to focus on the many ways you developed from your relationship with your ex, but chances are you won’t find that valuable information on his Facebook status.