First you need to think about what it even means to you to be a good parent. That’s the role that’s harder to get right. Unfortunately, there is no universal definition—not all people define good parenting the same way, as you can probably tell from watching various parenting styles at the playground. Being a good mom does not necessarily mean that you will be the best at anything, and it certainly does not imply perfection in any way. You may be a terrible cook, you might be late to school drop-off, you might mix up your kids socks and you will definitely struggle with homework assignments, but you can (and will) still be a great parent.

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