When I became a mother, I decided to blend the Boricua and American styles of parenting and disciplining to make my own rules. Here is what I have come up with.

  • Rules are explained, but they are rules!
  • There are things we negotiate, but I also have non-negotiables.
  • I don’t yell, but I speak firmly and with a stern voice when I need to.
  • I don’t use physical punishment, but I have given a flick every once in awhile.
  • I understand that children are children and that they are learning and will make mistakes—and so will I!
  • I do say please sometimes but not always. Sometimes my words are not a request, they are a command.
  • I say thank you often and sometimes beforehand, meaning that it is the end of the discussion.