If there are children in the picture, their needs should come before your desire to date. Remember that you are not alone in the healing process; they also need some time to adjust to the divorce. You are an adult and you might find it easy to move on, but children don’t. It can be confusing for them to see their mother or father move from one lover to the next. On the other hand, it is also important for kids to see their parents happy. So give them a reasonable time to adapt to the changes in the wake of your divorce, but don’t sacrifice your own happiness forever. Children learn what we teach them, but they learn more from what they see from us.  It is important for them to see that life is about happiness and that even when things end, new things come along and we can always strive to enjoy life and be happy.