What-Never-Ever-to-Do-On-a-First-Date-MainPhotoAnd then you get married, and maybe you have kids, and suddenly your world is a chaotic mess where you desperately try to juggle your work, your family and your sanity. When you get into bed at night you may be too tired to catch up about your day, let alone be intimate. Relationships evolve over time, that is unavoidable, but you can’t forget why you got together in the first place—before the kids.