As reports, spiritual teacher and author Deepak Chopra explains, self-pity “arises because you feel no one will lift you out of your difficulties. With no one stronger, older, wiser and kinder to help you, there’s a tremendous sense of lack. You cannot find the same strength that these rescuers have—or you imagine them to have—and the ache of not being enough is felt as self-pity or “poor me.” And while this feeling is normal for some of us (fine, for a lot of us), it’s also important that you find ways to overcome self-pity so you can live your best life.