When you call, remember these rules:

  • Keep it brief and positive. Do not tell your kids how sad you are, or how much you miss them. This will only make them feel bad and sorry for you… meaning they will feel guilty. Tell them how much you love them but do so with a smile on your face, even if it’s forced. Tell them some amusing anecdotes about their dog, a neighbor, etc.
  • Do not call at improper hours. Your children have a routine with their other parent. It’s their life with your ex-partner, and you have to respect this. So do not call when it´s bedtime or dinnertime, or when you know they are committed to some special activity.