According to the Society for Women’s Health Research (SWHR), “The Women’s Complete Healthbook, published by the American Medical Women’s Association (AMWA), explains that women are socialized to be caretakers. They are expected to assume responsibilities that men might not consider. During the holidays, when entertaining and visiting with extended families are custom, women often take on most of the added workload.” We say, there’s nothing worth stressing over to the point of sacrificing your health and wellbeing.  Regardless of culture or religion, there will always be holidays that you celebrate with your family or friends—which means you will most likely always have to practice some holiday stress management.

So to give you a head start, here are 15 brilliant holiday stress management tips so you can chill out and get in the spirit.

1. Sort yourself out first.
Holiday stress management should start with a few basic check-in questions. Are you worried that your budget won’t allow you to provide the holiday experience your kids deserve? Are you taking on too much by hosting multiple gatherings? Will you be forced spend a lot of time with a friend or family member who gets under your skin? Once you determine what it is that’s causing your strife, you will be able to better address it head on.

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