According to German linguist Elke Montanari, who studies plurilinguism in children, raising bilingual children takes time, effort and discipline. In Crecer en una familia bilingüe, she notes that the families that were most successful at this task were those who followed the rule “one person-one language” or “home language-environment language” and stuck to it. “It’s important that parents spend time with their children, talk and read books, but equally important is that they can sing, play and make jokes so children can develop a sense of intimacy and closeness to the language.” THE FOREIGN CULTURE These women can speak Spanish to their children and their husbands. These men understand the language, and most of them speak it fluently. But what struck me was the respect they had for the whole culture. During the summer, Fati and Charles get together with friends… at around the same time their neighbors are getting ready for bed. This happens because, in good Argentine style, Chloe and Kailen often go to bed after 10. “Charles would rather have them in bed by 8,” says Fati. “But he understands that I want to spend as much time as possible with them. Yesterday, it was 11 pm and Chloe and I were still in bed talking…” Other fathers may disapprove of Fati’s relaxed schedule. But Charles doesn’t. “We are living in the U.S. and the kids are mostly part of this culture,” he explains. However, he adds that if he wants to raise them as truly bilingual, he needs to embrace Fati’s customs and culture.