There was a you, before you had children. Maybe she liked posing for racy smartphone photos, or taking cooking classes, or dancing to reggaeton on the bar with her friends at the local watering hole. She probably even liked sex. You know who she was, but if you’re like many mamis, you can’t quite remember where you put her once your first baby was born. Many women find it difficult, once they become mothers, to justify taking time out to cultivate their own identity separate from being a mom. Some experts say this problem is compounded for Latinas, by cultural pressures.