We mistake intensity for intimacy. Drama is not the same thing as love, but sometimes, we Nice Women have a hard time telling the two apart. If our fights, breakups and makeups with Bad Boy are this intense, it must be the real thing, right?
We’re scared of the real thing. Being in an honest, secure, emotionally fulfilling relationship means you have to bring a lot to the table, and do more than just wait for Bad Boy to throw you a bone. Many Nice Women are scared of what real intimacy means—true emotional vulnerability and shared responsibility.