It’s the classic scenario. Nice Woman dates Bad Boy—or a few of them—while Nice Guy patiently waits offstage, biding his time until she is ready to give up the Bad Boy drama and realize that Nice Guy is the one she should be with. Except Nice Woman only realizes once it’s too late; after Bad Boy has broken her heart for the final time she looks for Nice Guy, but he’s already married and has a couple of kids and a nice house in the suburbs. Nice Woman curses her poor choices, right before she heads out the door to meet a sexy musician for drinks, which she’ll end up buying. Although this Bad Boy is a known womanizer, she’s sure can turn him around and make him fall for her. And we don’t need a crystal ball to see that this one is going to end badly—again.
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Sound familiar? For so many Nice Women and the Nice Guys who admire them, this cycle plays out over and over again. Yet we women—no matter how smart we are—often have a hard time falling for a Nice Guy, even when we know he’s the best choice. But why? Why do we sabotage our love lives by chasing after Bad Boys, and what can decent men do to avoid the Nice Guy Curse?
Here are a few theories on why women choose Bad Boys: