Give her a shoulder to lean (or cry) on. Knowing that she can pick up the phone and vent for a few minutes, or even bawl hysterically in frustration and not be condemned or judged for it will mean a lot. Bring over a meal. Invite yourself over for dinner, and bring dinner! Again, normalcy is the key. Normal people—those not consumed with caring for others—have friends over, they sit and talk and enjoy a meal together. Help her reclaim this little slice of normalcy.