Read Related: How to Recognize & Help Victims of Domestic ViolenceI remember him squeezing my head between his hands, popping my ears, and feeling like my skull was going to burst. And yet another time, he punched me in the stomach—when I was holding my son, no less. These are just a few of many horrible experiences I was subjected to by this man. I SURVIVED THE ABUSE Fast forward over 20 years, and today I am an empowerment speaker and founder of PowerfulLatinas.com. I regularly share my experiences with other women. I tell them about what it felt like to be tied to, and in love with, this man, and how difficult it was to leave the relationship.
“Chris Brown, you can beat me!” some young girls tweeted. I was equal parts shocked, frightened, and disappointed. I’ve also seen the many jokes about Chris Brown’s abuse of former girlfriend and collaborator, Rihanna. I get that the girls surely are not serious (I hope), and I can take a joke just as much as the next woman. But, domestic violence is no joking matter. I know. I’m a survivor of domestic abuse. I remember all too well my son’s father pushing me against a wall, strangling me, cutting off my air supply to the point where I almost blacked out. When the police came and took him away, one commented, “He’s just drunk.” As if his being “drunk” (which he wasn’t) would make it okay for him to damage my windpipe and make it painful for me to swallow and breathe for weeks afterward.