“Mami and Papi still love each other, but Papi is going to live in his own house where you’ll have your own room too. Most things will stay pretty much the same. You haven’t done anything wrong; we both love you very much.”These are the standard three sentences that, with some variations of inflection, parents—including Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony—should say to their children when they are separating or getting divorced. Sometimes the breakup is less than cordial, in which case the children’s experience often and unfittingly takes the backseat. Calm, rational explanations are foregone and replaced with embarrassing expletives describing the other parent’s wrongdoings.