Afraid your awkward dirty talk during sex will kill the mood? Most women are. In fact, sex experts say there’s an epidemic of silent sex going on in the U.S. Vanessa Marin, a San Francisco-based sex psychotherapist suggested to Bustle, that women hone their dirty talk with their partners tonight. She often hears from frustrated men who say that they had ‘no idea what was going on in her head, she was so quiet. They could not tell if she hated it or loved it.’
Did you hear that, ladies? Most men want to hear your enthusiasm. In fact, it’s a turn-on for them. Knowing that you’re enjoying yourself also helps relieve some of the performance anxiety they feel during sex. So while it’s good to moan like Madonna on occasion, don’t forget to say some naughty phrases, too.
It’s not all about him either, because what’s good for the goose is also good for the gander: A 2012 study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found the more comfortable we are talking about sex, the more satisfactory our sex lives will become. Those who did communicate during sex were more likely to experience sexual satisfaction.
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“Talking dirty is a great skill to learn because it brings liveliness into the bedroom in so many ways. It keeps you present in the moment. It develops your communication abilities. It taps into your primal nature. It connects you to your sense of pleasure, and can actually help you feel even more turned on,” adds Marin.
So whether it’s a long-term relationship or a new lover, these 10 tips will make sex better, if not louder.