8. Look at the big picture. “One of the most valuable secrets to my personal happiness as a mother, was taught to me by an older mother/mentor. ‘The days are long, but the years are short,’ she said. The days of diapers and whining and sacrificing would not last forever. The lasting impact my choices would have on those young lives, would. I made it my mantra as they grew up. It has made all the difference,” explains mom of four and blogger Marta Darby. 9. Celebrate the small achievements and embrace your mistakes. “You are teaching your kids amazing things when you tell them that mom made a mistake this morning when she yelled at you, because they need to see that it is okay to make a mistake, they need to see what you learn from it,” explains Dr. Carter, who is also a sociologist and happiness expert at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center.