1. Focus on the effort, not the result. Eliana Tardío, mom of two children with Down Syndrome, put it this way: “Learn to dream new dreams and how to reward efforts rather than results.” 2. Expect the unexpected. “My secret to being a happy mom is learning the art of letting go…of ideals and perfection…when I am cognizant of the fact that things will almost never go as perfectly planned, I can stare into the eyes of surprise and giggle instead of get angry,” says blogger, former teacher and mom of three Jenny Ingram.