- This too shall pass. That might be an annoying platitude when someone says it to you, but it is true. Be hopeful that nothing lasts forever.
- Look back on past experiences. When we look back on something that we thought at the time was the saddest point in our lives, we might find the positive side of things, like a lesson or a new experience that might have made us stronger. We learn that if we were able to overcome that obstacle, we can truly face almost any adversity thrown our way.
- Surround yourself with strong, resilient and positive people. Share your struggles with them, but be sure to listen to theirs as well, learn how they cope and give your advice and support. Isolation magnifies problems and keeps you stuck.
- Talk to a neutral outsider. A psychologist will help because he or she is not emotionally involved and can help you see the big picture. Talking—“getting it all out”—takes some of the load off your mind.
- Research the Web. There are forums and support groups for just about every topic. Relating to other people who are also trying to get over some traumatic experience will pull you through, and you may help others with your input, too. Grieving.com, has an array of forums based on specific life problems.
- Become involved. Seek out opportunities to be of service to others. Volunteer for a cause you care about; help a friend move; do anything that makes you take the focus away from yourself. Sharing your time will make you feel good.
- Follow positive people. Follow them on Facebook and Twitter, read their biographies, be inspired by them. Reinforcing optimism through other people’s life experiences and learning about how they got through rough patches will help you see that you, too, can see light at the end of the tunnel.