But do you really need a rule to date after divorce? The only ‘don’t’ you must adhere to is that you shouldn’t date to get over your ex. You might be using this new person to help yourself heal, but he is likely to get hurt in the process. Too many times, people go through divorce and the first thing they want to do is find someone else. It might seem like a good idea but if you think about it, it makes more sense to wait until you have completely recovered from the trauma of your divorce (and possibly the bad relationship that preceded it). If you start dating too soon after divorce, you might not be healed yet.